How to Apologize Effectively

How to Apologize Effectively

Apologies are hard. Even when we know we are wrong, it is hard to admit it and put ourselves at the mercy of others. Our own sense of shame or guilt makes it difficult to apologize without becoming defensive — it is natural to respond to feelings of vulnerability with...
Understanding Yourself: The Role of Individual Counseling in Personal Development

Relationship Resolutions for the New Year

The hallmark of the human race is our ability to relate to one another. Scientific studies show that healthy relationships — familial, romantic, social, and professional — are an essential facet of overall happiness, well being, and even longevity. In other words,...
3 Ways you Sabotage Yourself

3 Ways you Sabotage Yourself

To some degree we all have habits that get in our way. However, learning to recognize your own self destructive tendencies will help you to re-evaluate your priorities and recenter your actions to match your goals. Chronic self sabotage can leave you feeling...
Stop the Self Sabotage

Stop the Self Sabotage

Have you ever been stuck in a behavior pattern that seems designed to thwart your happiness? Do you feel powerless to change destructive behavior patterns even as you can clearly see the damage they inflict on your life? Lying at the root of such behaviors are usually...
Introducing Life-span Therapy

Introducing Life-span Therapy

Mental health is a foundational part of overall health. And yet, mental health is often the least prioritized aspect of well being. Even when we utilize mental health care, we do it in times of crisis and disruption and usually return to habits that jeopardize our...
Are You a Radical Host?

Are You a Radical Host?

I recently accompanied my children to a Nets game at the Barclay Center in Brooklyn, NY. Because of some ticket juggling I ended up waiting outside while my sister took the kids to watch the game. Apparently Brooklyn goes to bed early and so after being thrown out of...
Self Sabotage: What is it? Why do you do it?

Self Sabotage: What is it? Why do you do it?

Self sabotage halts our forward movement in life, relationships and work. It gets in the way of us achieving our goals and sets us up to betray ourselves over and over. It may feel like a one off (i.e. this time I will let the abusive language go). Over time, these...
Listen like a therapist

Listen like a therapist

One of the statements I hear from clients more frequently than I can count is “I feel like you really understand me.” Occasionally when a client says this to me I am left feeling relieved they feel this way even though I’ve just spent the whole session scratching my...
The Prisoner’s Dilemma: Me, You, or Us?

The Prisoner’s Dilemma: Me, You, or Us?

Once upon a time, two friends met on the corner of a busy city street. As they walked towards one another, they shared a nod but no greeting and walked into the flagship branch of a rather imposing bank. Once inside, Kit walked to the left while Nat went right. Each...